I have stated before that I don't believe OW's M is probably platonic and so I would start with exposing to her H.
After what happened last night though, I would let OW know that your H was intimate with you, because I am betting he has told OW he no longer has sex with you......and he just did have- maybe only because the alcohol made him weak about things - but whatever the reason - he still did, (and it will have served as a good reminder too him). I bet OW will see red and put pressure on your H. It will also have her mind swirling when her own H then starts to talk to her.
Just circled back and saw this. This is GREAT ADVICE, Pass -- the part I bolded is VERY much "affair SCRIPT" in many, many situations, and I don't doubt it for a minute!
