Cynmad -

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But everywhere it is written that to end the affair they are supposed to have no contact at all with the affair partner.


Not in the case of someone in a MLC - it does not work trust me. I tried and it backfired.

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So what if having no contact with the spouse makes it easier for them to end it with us?


Ultimately you have no control over what he does. So just focus on you.

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I know for my own sanity and health that I just have to let go.


Once you do this you will feel better. As Lost said...detach..detach...detach... with the detach will come clarity.

Take care of yourself at this time.

God Bless,
Eric


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