Jaime thanks, I really needed to hear that. I know it's so much harder to give that kind of advice to yourself. You bet I'll remind you if you start talking silly too
I'll count on it!
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So it's been 7 days since STBXW and I interacted via email and we saw eachother for 10mins when exchanging D last Sat. I really am doing just fine without her. Of course, I miss the sounds and life that once filled the house but I'm OK being on my own. Some things are uncomfortable for me, things that W used to do mostly. Like going grocery shopping and then browsing the frozen food isle for 20 mins like all the other guys lol At least when I walked up to the cahier she asked me if I had their rewards card. I told her no, she smiled and said 'oh you're probably visiting...right? no problem' and she swiped her card. Wow that was unexpected and a picker upper - she's cute too. I just smiled and told her 'wow, that was really nice of you, thank you'.
Do you feel like you actually feel better the less you see her and interact with her? You ARE fine without her- or apart from her, or whatever the current status happens to be. Are there really clueless guys wandering the frozen food aisles? Now I know where to pick them up when I'm single ;-)
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I've also been meaning to make some personal changes:
1. ditch the glasses and go back to contact on the weekends etc. 2. change my hair style 3. maybe grow a small soul patch 4. I'd love a tattoo but long term no good - maybe a fake one 5. I'm kinda lacking in the forearm real-estate for a tattoo anyway so yeah I need to build some muscle 6. I totally need a new wardrobe, I've been browsing GAP, bananna republic websites etc but I can't decide what to get 7. I still have a few house projects that I need to find the motivation for 8. My race car's in pieces, all the new shiny bits are sitting in the garage...but it's really become a backburner project. 9. I want to buy a new car...being a car nut I can give others advice but have a hard time settling on a car for myself. Right now the two cars are Mitsubishi EVO or the BMW 5 series. 10. I need to expand my social circle, I joined a single parents group on meetup.com and they have several events lined up. I need to get out of my comfort zone and just go with my D one day.
I think these all sound great. RE: wardrobe, this will sound kind of cheesy, but I know my H did it once- you could go to Macy's (or one of the other stores) and find a woman sales clerk who looks relatively hip and has some free time and ask her advice about what's in and what would look good on you. It can't hurt and they might even have some good tips.
Go check out one of the SP activities and let us know how it is!
J
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
