It is terribly rude when your W knows you are not attracted to her to even comment that a waitress has a hairstyle that would look good on your W.
OK. So I don't know yet how to be a romantic. I got that. What do I do now?
I'll tell you want I want - to run. Chaulk up another ADHD impusivity foot-in-my-mouth failure. Great.
But I'm not going to. She loves me and I now love her. I committed to try and I'm going to. Not because I have to, not because of money or the kids, but because I want to be happy with her.