Honest to goodness, it is all just perspective. I mean after my first son, my hubby found me unattractive and our next door neighbor thought I was amazingly beautiful. I mean he couldn't stop looking at me and not in a slimy way. I mean like the man wanted to marry me. One I got all dolled up for something (can't remember what) - put contacts in, hair done up, lots of makeup. He happened to be outside and literally, truly, this man's jaw dropped. He was stunned and just stated "wow" b/c he was speechless.
Meanwhile, 2 minutes earlier my hubby had asked if I had anything better to wear (meaning my clothing wasn't looking good enough). My hubby was not all at impresses with how I looked, rather I was no longer good enough.


SO do not think for one instant that while you see her in a negative light that another man would not. Do you get that?

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)