Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

OTMT,
Awesome that you removed the D. Great, wonderful.

Here is the thing though- you really screwed up. You are in a situation were for years you have let your wife know that you find her unattractive. SO what do you do- look at a waitress. Let me tell you something. ON a scale of 0-100. It's about a 90 (for bad) in my book.

I do understand that guys eyes like to wander. But try to understand- it's like a million daggers in a woman's soul. The glance for us is an instant comparison. It hurts so very bad. Why do men not get that- if you know how much it hurt then you simply would never do it. End of story.


And then to go on and state that the waitress was attractive. Wrong move! In this instance you make up a lie- I thought I saw something weird on her shirt or something. You have hurt her feelings way too much!

Uggg, the shoe is so on the other foot here b/c while at first my hubby found me drop dead gorgeous. As soon as ten pounds came on- forget it. He was unhappy with my appearance. Me, being stupid- I should have left since we were dating. Too late now with marraige and kids.


Let me explain how much that hurts a woman. A woman wants to be the only person a guy cares about. She wants to always be pretty in your eyes. It is one of the most important things or a relationship, just like sex is huge for a guy. Being desired and wanted is HUGE for a woman.


You know what- if suddenly some guy came up to her and stated- "Wow, I find you really pretty". Her mind would immediately be filled with the "what if" thought of moving on to that guy instead. I am telling you honestly, honestly that is the way it would be.


It is a HUGE love buster.

Hey, what is this joke that you said that hurt her feelings- was it really bad? Is there a reason you are not sharing it with us?