I have stated before that I don't believe OW's M is probably platonic and so I would start with exposing to her H.
After what happened last night though, I would let OW know that your H was intimate with you, because I am betting he has told OW he no longer has sex with you......and he just did have- maybe only because the alcohol made him weak about things - but whatever the reason - he still did, (and it will have served as a good reminder too him). I bet OW will see red and put pressure on your H. It will also have her mind swirling when her own H then starts to talk to her.
If you emailed your H about how much you enjoyed being held and being intimate last night would he respond? If he would, whether it be good or bad, as long as he doesn't deny it, then that is written proof you can put in front of OW in case she doesn't believe you. Just a thought.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
