WAH in MLC with PA

[Mila]

Thata girl

[DiamondGirl]

It is just unbelievable though how out of touch with reality these MLCers get.. I was warned but sheesh..

I don't even want to think about what he'll pull next on his way to bottomville..

[Cadet]

I have until just before 6pm tomorrow to make sure funds are in the bank so the payments will clear...

For this time ONLY can't you just transfer the money in right before the deadline?

For next time change the accounts that these are getting paid from.

[Mila]

DG I still can't wrap my mind around this total change of personality in my WH. I've known him most of his life, I thought that I really knew him, what he stood for, what he believed in...he was kind, dependable, honest, loving, happy person...I still have a problem comprehending how is this possible, how could a person change this much? I put a label on him - MLC, but still... hard to understand. The best I can deal with it is to think of him as being ill... hopefully just "temporarily insane"

[trustingfaith]

The way so many of our spouses seem to do a complete 180 of who they were the whole time previous to the MLC is what makes me believe in MLC. If I hadn't seen it with my own eyes I don't think I would believe it.

And hopefully for most of them it will just be temporary insanity.

[DiamondGirl]

Hi OP,

I've already started the ball rolling on moving the bills I *can* move from that account.

I don't have the extra cash right now to cover the payments if H decides to take the money out after I put it in. Am working on finding a way around it..

Thanks for checking in..

[Cadet]

You said you have until 6 PM tomorrow to cover them. When is the latest that the bank can take the money so that they will be there to cover these charges? (5:45???)

[DiamondGirl]

That's what I'm planning for at the moment... To wait until the last possible time to get it in there... H knows the 6pm thing too though (but hopefully won't remember in his foggy state).

I checked with the mortgage company (through my mom.. sheesh I'm almost 40 and talking through my mom.. ) and they do not accept any other payment method except for direct withdrawal and Western Union.. but WU costs $15 on my end and $15 is added on to the amount on their end to cover the charges... But since the auto-withdrawal is tomorrow it is too late to stop it unless I stop payment on the transaction (which I don't want showing on the mortgage record in case I have to prove that I am capable of handling it myself without H's money)

So I'm probably do the auction-like thing and wait until the last second to deposit the money.. hopefully H will be too "foggy" to be waiting to take it..

I have already become determined to never be in a position of relying on someone else financially again and this just reinforces it.

Even if H wakes up and smells the cappuccino I think I'd insist on separate finances and a joint account for bills. He's too spend happy and I'm thrifty... another of our issues from the M.. I kept having to compensate for his spending...

Going to stop in at the Hydro office tomorrow to change the account for next month's withdrawal.. before I go to my spa appointment (gift certificates are awesome sometimes!)

[Mila]

Good plan DG. Good luck tomorrow with your "race for the money". Things we have to do......all of our stories would make good scripts for a movie (horror?)

[courageous wife]

[I think I'd insist on separate finances and a joint account for bills. He's too spend happy and I'm thrifty... another of our issues from the M.. I kept having to compensate for his spending...]

Wow! Yet another similarity in MLC H's!!!

Good luck today DG!!! Hope it all goes well!