Nicole what I just read above is absolutely correct. If you want you can read my post today on my thread, but the key is that you have to let him go and just live your life. EA's, which I have dealt with the whole R with my H (dating, engagement, and through marriage). It eats at your self-worth and it boarders on being abusive because although they say they think you are great the WAS will say little things to blame you for the M problems.
The advice above stinks and like luv said it is hard to do, but it is important and completely correct. Your H may then come back to you because he sees when he is really with OW that she is horrible, but he may also just leave and never come back. Either way what is important is that you have gained back you and that is most important.
Luv-thanks for reposting this here because I have been on that road for a while and felt I was "wrong" for doing it, but now I feel a little better having some support.
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