That is why you need visitation/holiday schedules. If you were D then you would have to have some type of agreement about where or when the kids spent special occassions.
D15 is old enough to decide for herself, but if there is a chance of a "beating" then I would not allow my child to get near her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
