MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Just had quite unpleasant exchange on the phone with H. It was business related. He wants to purchase a very expensive membership in an organization that could be beneficial in the long run to our business. The offer the salesman made to him is attractive in terms of extra perks such as free ticket to Bill Clinton's speech. Which I think is a big motivation for H as he would really like to go to that.

The way our business is bleeding right now I look at all expenditures this way: Is it absolutely necessary? Is it going to benefit the business in the next few months?
This "investment" as a big chunk of money with no immediate return. So I told him what I think. That I like it and would like us to become members but why don't we wait until business improves a bit. I'm juggling bills as is.

He got defensive and said that I'm so pessimistic that I bring him down and that "To make money you have to invest money". Agreed BTW but in our current situation I just don't want to borrow money for it (and be responsible for paying it off if he disappears into the sunset). So he tells me that he will charge it on his personal Credit Card so I'm not responsible for it. Here we go...frivolous spending on credit? That's how we ended the conversation.

Believe it or not I felt bad after, for not supporting him in this. I was really temped to call him back and say "let's buy it", just to make him happy. I guess because he made me feel like a negative unsupportive "that's the reason I left her" wife. Fun...Fun...Fun... this business in crisis fussed with personal relationship in crises.

I didn't call him, but we did talk on the phone about a marketing project we were working on tonight. I took the opportunity to go back to the "lets buy" subject and we talked about it again, much calmer this time. I was validating his reasoning but still told him that we should wait and I think that we agreed to hold off. I think..for all I know he may still charge it tomorrow.