One day at a time....

[june72]

I know that when I had periods of severe anxiety driving I was fully stocked with humous CD's from the library. Lots of stand up comedians. It's harder to be anxious when you are laughing your butt off, IMO.

I will never forget listening over and over, while driving, to Drew Carrey's stand up bit- he actually is hilarious.

[avermont]

Rocked, tell me more about the EMDR.

I left my crappy C who I was only sticking with to do the EMDR, and will be starting with a new, "mindfullness-buddhist-based" one next week, who also does EMDR.

The Bad C said I couldn't do EMDR on "recent trauma" but the new one implied I could.

What have you gotten from EMDR? does it help with the anxiety? the repeating repeating repeating the story?

Sounds like you and H are dealing with the travel/time away as best as you can. Sounds like you are BOTH working on it, which is great.

[rockedworld]

Hey june... that is a great idea! I might have to look for some comedy cd's.

Aver... it sounds like you have a basic understanding of EMDR, if not look farther back in my thread. My IC didn't seem to have any trouble using it with new trauma. I had great results. Look back in my thread. It helped anxiety a lot but I found it only lasted a few days. My IC said most people need a few sessions.

Definitely recommend it! My IC also uses mindfulness techniques. Hope that goes well for you! I haven't checked your thread for awhile... need to do that.

[avermont]

Now, that's not a bad idea!

I do a fair amount of crying/driving, so anything to distract would be good.

I'll look into getting some distracting driving CD's.

[avermont]

I remember you posting about EMDR.

Like I said, the new C said I could use EMDR now, so I am, of course, hoping that will be the magic bullet to fix me and make it all better.

Failing that, I will continue to be inspired by you, Flowmom, Talia, etc.

Chins up, all!

[rockedworld]

Oh, if only there was a magic bullet... *sigh*

Side note: Saturday is my bombaversary. ugh.
Oh well.

Glad to be where I am a year later.

[Butterfly1]

oh dear - well the way I got through it was distraction
a funny movie and some tea - and I couldn't be around H but when I did we kept it light.

((HUGS))))

[rockedworld]

You know, I think I am ok with it. It is just another day. so much has changed from that day a year ago. As much pain as there has been, I have also grown and changed alot as a person. I'm not going to mention it to H, not going to make it a big deal... just another day.

[courageous wife]

I think that is a good plan RW!!! Will be thinking of you!

[Kalni]

It really is just another day. When I try to think of the bombday, I dont know which one to think of, the day I finally realised something was wrong, the day I felt alone in our M, the day I started suspecting him cheating, the day he said I was the worst mistake of his life, the day he moved out, or the day I found out the truth? I mean, the day of the bomb is really just one of the days when we faced the truth about our Rs/Ms.
K