My H is only home on Wednesday evenings. (He works out of town during the week.) How am I supposed to explain my tears and loss of eye make-up, while I ran into my office "for just a minute". I am sorry, my friend. I read part of this while I was waiting for my boys to finish soccer training, and started the tears then.
This is the beginning of the rest of your life. This is the beginning of letting your wife go. This is the beginning of loving yourself as no other.
If there's a chance to reconcile, it will come from this type of action. It won't if there's pressure added.
She won't have time to realize what's missing, if you're there. She won't have time to appreciate what you gave to her, if you're there. She won't have time to get rid of her personal ghosts, if you're there.
You don't want a cheater. You want to be the chosen one, without other options in view.
Grieve and get it out. You could be letting go of the worst, but so close to grabbing hold of the best.
HUGS, friend.
I'll be back in an hour and a half or so...
I know. Thank you. I just wish she cared more. My former-BFF was floored at the news today. He thought we were for the ages. He relayed, even his mother said of all the M people she knew our age, our M seemed "to work" and that we were a very good fit for each other. I think a lot of people are questioning a lot of things tonight. Hell, I even thought with our problems, we were a good fit and would work through it.
But I can't do it alone. I know I can do "better" whatever that means. I know I can be as happy or happier with someone else. I just know it will be hard for a while. It seems with all the couples with all the problems much worse than ours, that this is all happening on a whim.
