Yeah I was surprised he did that too, if I thought he would get violent over it I would never started using the voice recorder on my phone.

Problem is, he may not appear well in court for that, but it's his word against mine. Before he left I was saying "I can't believe you did that. I can't believe you took my phone and erased my recordings." He just said "I don't know what you're talking about. That never happened. What recordings?" Oh, and apparently I scratched him (his hand or something) sometime during the struggle so that means I attacked him...so he says anyway.

Puppy, I DID forward SOME of those voice recordings to my email (anticipating him trying to possibly sneak onto my phone and delete them). the most recent was not forwarded yet because we were in the middle of it! I'm sure the entire struggle was recorded, and unfortunately now deleted (unless anyone has any ideas how to get something like that back). He does not know I did the forwarding, do you suggest that I tell him? At this point I am worried about how he will respond to that information, and I don't want to be overpowered for my computer next (despite the fact he doesn't know my passwords, he is an IT guy and very, very good with computers and I don't doubt he can get things he wants off a computer if he really tried).

I will be calling the cops if anything remotely like this happens again. I guess to be honest another reason I didn't call was because I was afraid the mess would ruin his career and I didn't want to be the one to do that. But really, he is the one making these poor choices, so if he gets in trouble and it leaks into his professional life that it ultimately his own fault. Of course no job means no child support for me, and being a stay-at-home mom out of the workforce for 3 years and no college education my prospects aren't really the greatest. However, the promise of child-support money is not worth my personal safety or the trauma our son receives witnessing stuff like this (yes, he did that all in front of our son). *Sigh* I probably should have just let him have the damn phone instead of trying to hang on to the stupid thing.