I am recommending that you take your stitch over to the infidelity forum. There are some techniques that have worked for others on this forum (i.e. pearl harbor, puppy, Allen, robx, gucci) that I think you could benefit from. It is important to follow DB, but there are other things you need to do when infidelity is involved. And yes, and EMOTIONAL AFFAIR is JUST AS if not AS more dangerous than a PHYSICAL AFFAIR.
Read some of the posts from Allen in the infidelity forum. Read some of the posts from gucci. When someone or a WS is involved with someone else, its is EVEN harder for them to notice any of your changes because they are so caught up in the "love chemicals" with the other person. Ready "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass. This is an excellent book to understand infidelity and the mindset your husband is in. You may also need to expose the affair to husband's family and your family (but ONLY to those people who are marriage friendly). AFFAIRS THRIVE IN SECRECY!! The sooner that people know what is going on the more PRESSURE that puts on the affair couple. PRESSURE USUALLY LEADS TO A DISMANTLE OF THE AFFAIR RELATIONSHIP. I think Dr. Phil as well as Shirley Glass said that less than 1% of affairs last long term.
There is MUCH more info on the infidelity forum...gotta run for now.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
