NIcole8: I'm just so digusted that he is quitting and not manning up to find a real solution to his problem. I guess that can't happen though until he actually gets help.
If you need to start detaching, think of it like this: my IC said some people spend YEARS and YEARS or their ENTIRE LIVES like this if they don't get appropriate treatment. They settle to some low level functioning where they get by at work (paycheck) and they are miserable at home and in their personal lives and either burying themselves in work or wearing a mask there. If H is going to choose nonaction, this D may lift, but it may not. Could go either way. Would you want to live like that?
You might just want to give him a secret deadline in your mind that you don't share with him. A deadline by which you would see SOME progress. The deadline may come and go before he ever finishes Ding you.
