flowmom | need to commit to myself

[motherof3]

FM - You did the right thing letting H deal with your son. I can relate with wanting to take S off of his hands. But it is H's turn to wear big boy undies. Let him be the parent tonight. Not easy, but necessary.

(((FM)))

The physical distance does feel utterly ridiculous and surreal.I know how that feels. The awkward skirting and maintaining of an invisible barrier between you.

So very true. I am slowly trying to get past the 'awkward' barrier that has been set up. My goal at this point is to be able to co-parent without this barrier.

There is also a mental feeling of discomfort and incredulity because you don't know HOW to interact in the new dynamic. I think part of it is self imposed and you have to allow yourself to physically relax in the person's presence. If you are not comfortable with the "acquaintance interaction" or you want to switch it up, do your part i.e allow YOURSELF to relax, stand your physical ground, let him skirt if he wants to. You are not intimidated, it does not bother you, you are smiling a little mysterious smile because you are a mature adult and you can handle it.

Very good advice here and I agree with it 100%. The hard part if actually being able to accomplish this. Time and acting as if will help.