Pup, before you challenge me do me a two hour favour.
There's a film called Clean and Sober with Michael Keaton in the lead role - 1988.
You go watch that film - one of the best characterizations of an addict and what they are capable of - and how to get to them - that I have seen in a long time. And that film is twenty years old.. still haven't seen anything to top it.
If you saw it back then, go download it and watch it again.
You go watch that and then challenge me and I will be happy to duke it out with you.. but until you have seen that film you're missing something I promise you.
I wasn't "challenging" you, I was asking you to clarify your pretty outrageous post. I know perfectly well what addicts are capable of, coming from a family of alcoholics. What I was questioning was whether you were serious about whether or not you felt the office confrontation, as you described doing it, was really a good idea to bust an affair and win back a wayward spouse.
Sounds like you were. Hmmm. Give me back that 4th Whistle!
I agree that exposure should take place...I, after reading Allens post believe that I should have confronted OM1 at my W's work from the get go...sadly I did not and exposing to Om's LD GF didnt work terribly well b/c she was manipulated.
Anyhoo- I'm upset to hear that H is bringing OW to meet his friends...I recently read about a 5 tier process cheaters go through psychologically: -demonization of spouse -rewriting history -punishing spouse -validating/seeking approval of others -retoring balance (where he wants you to be happy for him)
I'm at stage 5...though not really caving- remaining NC until...
UGH- the things people do...
All for selfish pleasures, individual happiness, and complete avoidance of personal responsibility
Woah Jasper. I would reccomend this for OP's workplace, NOT for your spouse's workplace... that is a whole different business.
OP - Expose plain - at work, at home, at her gym, wherever - no mercy WS - Expose to friends and family only YOU - Expose to family who will support you when you need a shoulder
Help help help. Went out tonight to MILs for some games and bday party and DH drank 4 scotchs and got trashed. Started to tell the kids that he's going to D me. (I understood and they did not. I told them he's going through some stuff right now and not to listen to him)
He started to tell his mother also. I told him to wait until this weekend so I could expose to him, but I wonder what to do now. He's so close, he's showing so much animosity towards me. He's definitely in the stage of demonization of me if that above post is correct. He hates me right now.
I want to stop this, I want to go to Retro. What do I do!
He just said he's still going to retro with me. But if he goes and is closed off, it's not going to do any good. He's just going to make a good show of things. I'm so hurting right now.
