The visits went ok. They are close so that is something to think about.
H comes in today and sent a rude email "i had a change" - that's it...infuriated me. What change what details? I had to ask him and it really pissed me off. He sent me an email back 2 hours later "830" ugh!
I have to go get him bcuz older son is at a concert tonight. It seems like this was just a bad day. I had so much anxiety today it was awful.
Thank you guys for the support.
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M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Sure, Mindfull- we'll get better mileage that way ;-)
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
I was supposed to get H at airport last night but he didn't show. I text him I'd wait 5 mins then I was leaving. I never got a response. He called me at 1am saying he was in his hotel room and he didn't know how he got there. He sounded drunk of course.
He didn't know where his luggage was and he was confused. He kept saying, "luv I'm freaked out I don't know how I got here." I said call me in the morning.
He called in the morning and said he found his luggage in the rental car downstairs. He said his friends said he was an emotional wreck last night. He went missing (guess that's when he walked back to hotel) who knows what the real story is. His knees scraped and elbows from a fall - so is his precious blackberry all scratched up.
I picked him this morning and he was a little quiet. I started talking to him and saying how disappointed I was in him. He said he was stressed and then said, "I have to move out." I nodded and said, "yeah."
We came home he unpacked his bags and I made lunch. He was very quiet. He didn't even know how to approach kids but he went to say hi. He barely says anything. He's lying down on the couch right now falling asleep. I'm looking at him wondering where my H went
Ok well looks like I'm going to file asap. Here comes the rough stuff. Stay with me my friends.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
and I can't believe you guys have the same LL for your first two!! My H and I have exact opposites. his is Quality time, and that's my last one. let me tell you how hard that can be sometimes!
so, no wonder you guys were falling apart if he traveled and those are your top too. that's probably the worst job to have with those LLs.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
((((Luv))) (I changed my screen name but you'll know who I am from my link in signature)
Whoah, honey, you are a strong woman. Your H is behaving badly- what the heck is he doing, falling down drunk, etc? He's lucky- for your kids' sake- that he didn't seriously hurt himself or someone else.
I can't imagine how you're feeling about the PI/OW. As much as we think we're ready to hear something, it can still feel like a sucker punch. You are staying so strong, I'm in awe- telling him he has to move out- phew, sounds like YOU will need a drink tonight Sorry, bad joke.
I'll be watching here for updates. Keep your chin up like you're doing already.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
If I may make one gentle suggestion. Read the PI report once then put it away. You know what it says and reading it time and time again will do you no good. Put it in a safe place and don't pull it out again until you need it.
I only say this because when I learned of my H's affair I went over the information for hours. Then I spent the next few hours throwing up. Then I went back to my "intel" and well, threw up again. Once is plenty.
Sorry, bad joke.