With respect, HDH, I'm not going to be happy in this relationship without intimacy. It's difficult to reach intimacy without having a sexual relationship. He knows nothing of my desires and fantasies or sexual tastes.
If we compromise and make an agreement as you suggest (we've done it before) he feels like he's doing chores and I feel like he's doing the bare minimum. It's mechanical and NOT intimate.
I know he has passion in him because I've seen it a few times before.
