The problem OIN is that if you only want to be a good person while she is showing some sliver of hope and she walks out the door.... YOU have NO REASON to be an adult anymore.
Your reason for being an adult must come from YOU... don't use her frown to put you down or her smile to life you up each day.. or you will LOSE this battle I promise you that.
At the end of this battle the wondeful thing is that YOU will be a great partner, for her or someone else.. and your marriage.. this one OR a new one will be MUCH better becuase of the work YOU are doing... so there is no reason to not do it if she's resisting... its for YOU, not for her
You are right. My anger issues did not only impact my R with my W and our M but also my R with my parents and other family and friends. I was often called "miserable bastard." I will be honest and say that I have thought about the future and the possibility of there being a "someone else" as much as I don't want to feed that thought I know in my heart that I don't ever want to travel down the same road again and make the same mistakes. No one deserves to be treated the way I treated my W and I can only hope that I get the opportunity to be the one to treat her the way she DOES DESERVE.
The issue is I beat myself up over the past but that is something I am slowly but surely overcoming.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
