Mom of 2 Cherubs, I wish you well--I'm sure that you want the best for you, your XH and your children. Sandi2, your posts have been really helpful. I think that when you have loved someone deeply, and they treat you badly, as though you are nobody, sometimes the anger helps you get through the grief. The sadness has to be "broken" by some other emotion, and maybe anger has a place. But none of us is perfect. I'm really glad that you and your H are back together. I can't imagine that would happen with my H and me, but one never knows the future. I do know that I was in contact with an old boyfriend (married) and felt like I could have had an A with him, but I cut off contact. I think after you have been the LBS, you feel like you could never participate in the demise of another's marriage...but Sandi, you are right. Sometimes we do things we don't expect or recognize.
