I think you are absolutely right on target.She needs to be able to see that she can have her freedom and space with out the need for a D.I know she still loves me but she has had enough of feeling smothered and right now sees D as her only escape.

If D was what she really wanted she wouldn't have stopped it from going through before.

I do have to GAL,I do not have many guy friends I moved around allot growing up but my S14 and I do go to concerts and football games and we take our ATVs out on weekends.

And you are also right about trying not to show any fear about her leaving,I have to take the pressure off of her.

I know what I need to do it's just a matter of doing it and not falling back into old habits.


Married 28 yrs
Seperated 6 mths
Rec D Papers 11/24
W Canceled D
Moved Back Home 3/1/08
2 Kids D23 and S16
Trying 2 Put R Back Together