How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

One of the books is for Anger Management, which was primarily my down fall in our relationship and looking back a great deal in life itself.

The other is religious. I have opposed religion for a very long time (agnostic). Pretty much as long as she has known me I had always been a doubter. After talking to a couple of my co-workers I had come to the realization that had an unhealthy outlook on life. I intend on attending service his Sunday with a co-worker (first time in 17 years or so).

I would not leave any marriage books laying around because she would see it as manipulation and more than like will back off more.

Allen,
As for the FIL he text messages her. I read them, when she does not delete the messages which is 90% of the time. When she talks to her father she makes sure I am not around.