My advice is to put them in your living space, on your side of the bed on the table etc.. At the same time, dont' wave them in her face...
I wouldn't hide them no... keep bookmarks in them so she can snoop to see what specifically you are reading about...
Dont' talk about the books, if she asks about them just be VERY casual...
HER : What are you reading about.. what do they say? YOU : They are right there if you want to have a look at what I am reading.. HER : Just tell me what they are saying. YOU : I don't want you to feel like I am lecturing you. You are welcome to look at them ok?
And you walk away...
If you didn't walk away from that convo above you would end up in a fight...
What would have happened ...
YOU : It says that people quit on marriages too early. It says they get distant and negative and try to push their spouses away rather than communicating how they feel... some even start an affair... HER : That's crap YOU : I dunno... some of it sounds true. HER : That's it.. I am DEFINITELY LEAVING.
Don't put them in her space, keep them in your living space only... dont lay them out on display either.. stack them with a bokmark in a place where you would be likley to read them. That's it.
If she wants to look tell her she's more than welcome to open them but don't let her drag you into a summary.. she will start arguing with the book.. that happened to me too many times.
If she disagrees with the book she will attack YOU and YOU will suddenly be associated with marriage-saving and it will all go downhill.
let her keep the books ideas separate from you... you want HER to take the ideas into her head on their OWN... no pressure from you and certainly without you reading to her or summarizing... she needs to hear the books content on her OWN TERMS without your involvement.
