There is no quid pro quo here, at least there shouldn't be.
Puppy
OIN, the simple response about her challenge of double standard is :
"Everyone is in the loop when I have a conversation. You are welcome to hear, OM and OMW are all involved - THAT is the difference, and its a BIG difference to OM WIFE."
Don't mention what hers was, just tell her what a HEALTHY exchange looks like and cut it off.
Ouch... why did you make a joke like that? SEVEN STEPS BACK MAN.. every time you take a jab or a run at her you LOSE SEVEN GOOD STEPS you made forward... ouch ouch ouch
CONTROL YOURSELF
If her father is calling her to find out if she's ok just tell him your house is an open book. Hand him a key and tell him he is welcome to come over any day or night you are'nt hiding ANYTHING.. same deal as his daughter's getting.
Do NOT prompt her to ASK you if she wants the truth.. you are tempting her to conversations which is PURSIT
Your wife wants to KNOW what you are doing but does NOT want to TALK to you to find OUT.. get it? You NEED to GET that and stop poking at her. I remember you tried that line before. STOP prompting her to ASK you for the truth.. that is NOT setting a good example. Your WIFE will throw that at YOU when you call OMW.
You call OMW and YOUR WIFE will just say "if you want the truth.. ASK ME.. don't call her... ASK ME"
