Hi 4Luv, I believe this is the exact same thing my WH would tell me regarding him making the mistakes that he has over the past year. My H has stated that he is going to stay down south and maybe in a couple of years he will be happy. I think he is trying to prove a point no matter how much it hurts his family, just to say that he was right about his feelings regarding me. My H needs to grow up. I really admire how you have handled your communication with your H.
I agree with you ALJ, I think I made a comment in your thread some time back that these two men had a lot of similarities.
They both want to be a parent without the work or the responsability.. which means you two ladies get to do the work of two-parents while he smiles to himself and tells everyone he's a Dad free of charge.
I am wondering if you both started referring to yourselves as "single-moms" if that would give them a kick where they need it.
Men usually don't like to be deadbeats to their families. They will lie and cheat, but as providers most men that is primal and they won't stand for it.. its humiliating to have people think or know you can't or aren't providing for your children.
I will have to think on that. If you guys refer to yoruselfs as single mothers instead of wives I am wondering if that might send a more powerful message. Effectively you are so... I will have to think on that.
Keep it up both of you. These guys need the examples you are providing for them... just don't let them reap any rewards until they do the work. Once they do the work, then they get the rewards.
