Over the past few weeks periodically my wife will grab my phone and check the logs. And if you have been reading along, yesterday, I receive a call from OM and OMW which prompt my wife to check the phone logs.
Later in the day I asked her "Do you feel like I am hiding something from you" she said "I don't know" I told her "I would like you to know I don't and if you would like to know something feel free to ask."
Today (short while ago) I heard a noise and I started to walk around the house to try and find out what it was. I was lead to the bedroom where my W was sleeping. She looked at me and I asked "Did you hear a noise" she replied "It was my phone, my father text messaged me" she then proceeded to tell me what the text read and part of it was "Will I see you on Saturday" and I asked "Did you tell him, yes?" because she had already told me she was going on Saturday. She said no and she said it is OK. The issue is her father text her and she does not reply and sometimes the text is "Are you OK?" leading her father to believe she is not OK causing him to worry.
I got upset and tried my best to stay calm and cool but did say "That's not fair" meaning not fair for her to keep her father in suspense and his reaction is going to be "You got to get out of there."
a few minutes later I get a call and when it ended she immediately wanted to know who it was. I jokingly said "someone" but then told her i was kidding and said who called (I know I crossed the line there).
It got to me more than it should had....so the question is...should it bother me? Should I address this concern with her or would that come off as controlling?
Also I will ask the therapist during my next session.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
