In my opinion, your chance lies in backing completely away and putting no pressue on her whatsoever. Stop trying to get her to see that the M can be worked out. That is a ton of pressure to a WAW! The more you try to get her to agree to working at the problems, the more she will dislike you and not be interested.

Treat her as if she was a coworker who you were not interested in.......you know, nice but not overly friendly and certainly not wanting a R with them.

You need to GAL that does not include her and give her some space. Don't do aNything that would indicate that you fear her leaving you. Do not smother her with conversation, attention, or anything.

The most precious thing to her right now is freedom. You can decide to give it to her while you're M or she will D you in order to get it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!