1. Ask the therapist what they think. Don't just DO IT, just ask for their input. 2. My advice may be the same, might be different, here it is : You ask the Therapist to put their name and # on one of his business cards inviting her my HAND... make sure they WRITE on the card... inviting her to call and make an appointment any time she wants to... just an open invite from the therapist.
You just put the card on the table and let her know its from the therapist. You do NOT HAND her the card. you put it on the table and wait for HER to PICK it UP... when SHE wants to.
The card has a friendly handwritten invite on the back from the therapist, she can use it if she wants to.
If your wife ASKS you after picking it up to make her a separate appointment or whatever, do that... but do NOT just walk home and try to get her into a verbal conversation for a commitment to an appointment.
You need to understand approaching a WS for conversation to them they just see a big NET hanging off the ceiling and they want to RUN.
So, don't do the convo. put the invite on the card, from the therapist and let her call the shots.
She MIGHT find the task of making the call too stressful and ask you do it.
Do it then.. don't RUN to the PHONE.. just say "sure, no problem" and go make a sandwich or something... don't make a huge deal of it... you do a handspring and she will feel trapped again.
your wife needs to feel like SHE is in CONTROL... so give her control of it... no harm there.
Make the appointment privately, don't do it in front of her... It's just going to stress her out.
You need to keep the appointment booking thing REALLY casual... she will smell it as a trap, mine did bigtime.
