hey TG..I am so thankful everyone came out to help and provide advice. I really felt kind of lost yesterday. I spent the past day reading hope4luv's post in piecing..something caught my attention and then I couldn't stop reading. My situation is very similar to her sitch..my H sounds sooooooo much like her H. Just remove cat..insert dog...joking put downs..selfish with food...narcissistic tendencies. She is much better at verbalizing everything than I am. I am sorry I neglected my post.
H texted me last night to watch something on tv..I returned his text with a one word text..and I heard my phone buzzing..but I didn't even get up to look at his response. I just turned off the lights and went to sleep. I did respond to his text late this morning...but via email- he challenged me on something that I knew I was right on..so of course I had to let him know that. Darkness can wait when an opportunity to be right comes along. jk.
I typically go home during lunch to care for my dogs...to my surprise today..H was at the house. I first got pretty anxious. I had a big meeting this afternoon and was a bit worried about what kind of mood he was going to be in...and what kind of mood I would allow him to put me in. I took a deep breath and walked in. H was in a dripping sweat trying to fix something on my bike. He picked up stuff to fix my bike and everything. He couldn't get off a bolt and asked me to ask my brother for a different wrench...and said 'sorry...HONEY..I cannot get it off'. I didn't smile or even acknowledge the fact that he called me honey..I just thanked him for working on the bike. He hasn't called me honey in months. I don't know if he too was surprised that he called me honey.
I got my stuff together to go back to work..H was getting washed up..and I told him I would see him soon and began walking out..He asked me to wait so that we could walk out together. So I waited a minute or so and we walked out together. We used to always give a kiss in the driveway before work...I had no interest in it becoming uncomfortable so I didn't stop..I just walked on by him and thanked him again. He pulled up along my car in the street...and told me again to get a different wrench so he could fix my pedal. Then he was just thinking to himself..and I said "OK- see you later"..he said I am just thinking about tomorrow.."should we go get something to eat after MC or before MC..probably after right? I probably won't have time for the gym? If you want to get something to eat with me???". I told him to figure it out and I would talk to him later.
He made eye contact with me the entire time he was speaking to me. H pulled away..my phone rings two minutes later...again telling me to get a wrench so that he can get my bike fixed for me. I told him OK..thanks again. hmmmmm. I typically would be skeptical and paranoid over his niceness...but it was actually genuine. It didn't leave me with a weird feeling at all. I was so calm and confident with him..he seemed like he was self conscious in front of me. Fixing himself...messing with his hair. It was very different.
I am not getting excited over this..nor am I going to put too much thought behind it all. It was just nice to see a genuine change in him..although most likely temporary. It was definitly genuine.
