The dreaded LIMBO

[ALJ]

Hi 4Luv,

I was reading through your sitch a little and your WH and my WH are acting similar in some ways. He moved 14 hours away from us because he has always wanted to move down south and I guess he thought that being away from me was going to solve all his problems and he was going to be happy but things are not turning out the way he wanted. There is OW in my sitch and she has moved down south with him but things still aren't peaches and cream because he is having major money problems. The following quote is what you wrote that your H told you,

"The thing about me is that when I put my mind to something I stick with my decision even if it is to my detriment. So with this apartment thing, its like I am trying to get something that I feel i missed out on even if it costs me dearly. In the end I might look back and realize that it wasn't worth it but I still am going to do it regardless. that is just the way I've always made decisions."

I believe this is the exact same thing my WH would tell me regarding him making the mistakes that he has over the past year. My H has stated that he is going to stay down south and maybe in a couple of years he will be happy. I think he is trying to prove a point no matter how much it hurts his family, just to say that he was right about his feelings regarding me. My H needs to grow up. I really admire how you have handled your communication with your H.