You don't know if or how much she cares tbart. Mindreading.
I know how it feels to feel like a leper in your own house. My W's parents were living with us temporarily while this was going on and the three of them would sit in the front room watching TV and drinking wine every night.
And then there was me...lol.
It sucked.
tbart, you need to be in the mindset of leaving her alone when you get back. You guys will be living separately so use that as an opportunity to stay away from her. With you not constantly in her face to focus on, she'll have to deal her emotions and thoughts and not just her anger at you.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!