Mach - I want to move forward...forward with myself. I am still standing for my M and family but I finally realized that there is nothing I can do for her but to leave her be. That is my answer.
How do you accomplish this ?
Look at your convo.....
Tell me what part of that NEEDS addressed right now...
Do you see any part of that conversation that moves you further away from your goals ?
Listen Eric....
Want a razor blade to walk ?
NOTHING you do right now will have any affect on your relationship....
Yet EVERYTHING you do will have an affect...
You are NOT gonna talk your way out of a situation that you ACTED your way into.....
The person that you strive to be should be making those decisions, not the person that you have seen the past twenty years or so....
That is what everyone here has been trying to tell you....
NOTHING has to happen .....right now....
This is your time Eric....
I see you trying to skip stages of YOUR growth, and it simply cannot be done....
To the point ?
What do you think would be more affective...
A bird chaser?
OR
A bird watcher ?
You are trying to fix everything the same old way....
Step back, and let the new person inside of you actually breathe for a while, and see what HE has to say....
I would venture the answers are different....
BTW ?
You can only take a step forward if you allow the chains that hold you back, to be loosened...
Moving on entails you DRAGGING those chains with you...
