Eric,

Action speaks louder than words.

R conversation-Will go nowhere...you have accepted that.

F conversation-Will turn into an argument about the debt...this you have noted.

Co-parenting conversation- Will turn into an argument about how you were a lousy father...this I predict.

Winner....none...losers...all

Actions-R-Accepting the marriage of old is dead, stop bringing it up to her since she has said as much, and work on yourself

Action-F-Continue to work on debt because it is obviously going to follow you...no matter what happens in your marriage

Action-Co-parenting-Continue to be a better parent....the co-parenting will come easy after that

Is there even a need for a conversation or letter? Or is the letter and conversation a selfish projection of your own control and pain?

The problem with today's society...we talk about the world we want when all we had to do was make the world what we want by action.

So what is it....fruitful action or confrontation?

I hate to be blunt....just the mood I am in today.

"Be the changes you want to see in the world"