Mach - I want to move forward...forward with myself. I am still standing for my M and family but I finally realized that there is nothing I can do for her but to leave her be. That is my answer.

Lost / Jack - Maybe my text did come accross as having my mind made up - your both right. Having been "helped" at looking at this from another perspective, I do agree that no good will come of the R convo - none. So I will stick to the co-parenting and financial convo. Personally, I struggle with the financial convo as well but I am struggling with paying for her to buy cloth to go out on a date with OM. I will say that she is not spending much. Other than a little extra dipping here and there. The purpose of the finacial discussion is a boundary for me. I want to open my own accounts, I need to do some things for me and I really do not want an agruement about how I need to pay down all of the debt. I just may hold off on the financial convo but welcome your thoughts.

Eric

"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans