You are all right, having the R discuss will not help. The letter is a better idea.
Cat - I guess it is a form of control - I did not think of it that way.
Jack - you are not wasting your time. I like the perspective that I get from you and everyone else. For example I really did not consider the "control" aspect that cat pointed out. i also did not consider the letter. What I do know is that I have to get some stuff off of my chest - this may be a little selfish but as I admit I am trying to deal with the anger.
In short, I'm going to stick to the bill discuss and co-parenting - no more.
Thanks everyone for the feedback I needed it.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
