Yes, so sorry. It went on for years. My mother was desperate to settle and even in the end paid my father money (she shouldn't have). He then took us on a big shopping spree with the money and made himself look like a big hero. Did not learn till reading the D degree that that is where he had got all of his money. Short lived - he was on welfare shortly after.
It shattered our family- restraining orders, fights over the house, parents telling us adult info, my father telling us what a horrible mother she was- on and on.
IDK, the whole mess was too much- my dad attempted suicide twice, my sister was in a mental hospital for 2 years after it all in her teen years and dropped out of high school. My mother suddenly GALed like a crazy woman and worked full time, went to school full time and joined organizations and dated. We were at best roommates from my age of 13 upward.
If only they had chosen to work on themselves. To really try for the children's sake.
And that is what worked for my hubby and I- we BOTH really loved are children and wanted what was best for them. It would have been nice if he decided not to S but I think he just had no other idea of what to do.
Honestly, people are really selfish, IMO. I am glad you fought the hard fight.
Your children will know this abut you some day- it will make a difference to them. I swear to you- they will look on you as a parent that loved them so much that he lived in hell and stayed in hell all for their benefit.
That you in essence made you life about them and their happiness and well being.
You did it all the right way. You could have taken the easy route but you didn't I am proud of you.
You are at the last mile. The finish line is there - you can see it. Keep going!
Sending you vibes of strength and peace.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
