Kalni, A very, very, long time ago I believe that you had stated that you will have to D b/c your hubby can not do the work necessary to repair the marriage.
My goodness, I think it was this past summer, maybe the fall.
Is my memory correct?
I think those was your words quite some time ago.
I, all along, thought this man was possibly lazy, fearful, depressed, a shirker, stubborn or just clueless but now I wonder if he actually is manipulative and messes with your head. Just doing enough to suck you in so that he still can "have" you but not doing actual repair work and healing for you and the marriage.
I mean all his actions have been self-serving in a way. What makes him happy with little concern or insight into your happiness. If you are unhappy- he does the minimal to resolve it not for you but b/c he does not want to deal with an unhappy wife. Am I making sense. He actions seem to be about him.
HE WANTS YOU, BUT ON HIS TERMS ONLY. (perhaps?)
I am not in a good position to judge.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
