You are on the right track eric. You will "adjust" your goals as you progress through this. I may be wrong but I wouldn't initiate any Relationship talks at this time unless she starts it and then I would just validate. I think that at this stage you & her are still too emotional and R talk may end up being an argument. If you really need to let her know your feelings, maybe write her a letter?
Other then that no 2x4's from me
Take care of You and your kids
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
