flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

H brought the kids home 2 hours late, and it turns out that S6 is sick. He's cancelled camping tonight, fortunately because it wasn't a great idea IMO. Then H wanted to pick the kids up 2 hours later than the plan that we agreed on for the afternoon, because of the change of camping plans. I said that I planned my day around the plan and I'd like to stick to it. He agreed.

He is really expecting me to organize my life around the microadjustments that he makes to his day. I want us both to be flexible around scheduling, but I've been too much of a doormat in this area. He's not entitled to the level of accommodation that I granted him as a wife.

I want to cancel my plans tonight and beg H to let me keep my sick S at home, where he'd probably rather be. But I'm not going to. <sigh> I know it's stupid but I feel guilty about GAL tonight when I have a sick child. I guess not being overprotective continues to be an important 180 for me.