Thanks for the encouragement, YAH. Sometimes it's just good to get some positive affirmation that I'm on the right track.
And congrats to you on making a healthy lifestyle for yourself. That is not an easy feat, and to make it permanent is a daily struggle.
As for me, I have always been a borderline health nut. I don't have much weight to lose, but now I'm focussing on toning up (i'm skinny but flabby and not very strong). I have been riding my bike to work (45-minute ride) for the last month or so, and I live in Texas hill country. It has had more positive effects than just exercise, which I didn't expect. It gives me a lot more "me time" to think and meditate, and also gives me a better perspective of the fine, beautiful city I live in. Literally stopping to smell the roses
As far as my H's online activities, what he has been looking at seems pretty much regular ol sex. And the frequency has not been weird, about once a week, which is honestly about the same or less than I do. I have always asked him if he had any fantasies he wants to explore, because I'm very open-minded sexually, but he really can never think of anything and says he just likes regular "vanilla" sex. I believe him because I really have no reason not to.
We have a good "touch" communication, too, but it's just not sexual to him. We massage each other's feet almost daily, and though it makes me really hot, for him it just feels good.
Again, thanks for the encouragement. It really helps when I'm trying to refrain from pursuing him sexually and trying to be patient in the meantime. Perhaps after a while, when he does start to approach me (it will happen, I'm willing it with my mind :P) I can suggest learning some reflexology on each other.
