I don't know what to think about the Insurance thing.
Is she paying anything to have you on her policy?
I am currently on my W policy and she pays a small amount to have a family plan. I was able to negotiate at my work to drop my family plan in order to receive more money.

Early on My W said I could stay on in until I can't.(Meaning once we are D she need to take me off).
I pay car and life insurance for the both of us.

What could her reasoning for taking you off? Does she want to detach from you totally? If so she should step up and take responsibility for the items you pay for her.IMO

Hear I go again mind reading and it's your W.

If she did cancel your policy shouldn't you receive a letter in the mail? You can always call for yourself too.

Another item is:
I had/have some things I need to work on. However, I feel like I am being judged in a way...that my W gets to be the judge and determine if/when she will work on the M. I'm making huge efforts and I ask myself, what is she doing to improve herself? Why does she feel that she gets to now control this sitch?

I feel the same way but we have to accept that is the way it is. We are along for the ride with no control.

Our only say in it is how we take care of ourselves.

We want them to just to give us another chance now that we know the issues.
They were feeling the same as us before but we didn't hear them.

It will make us better.
Right now I think about my R everyday. EVERY day.

I feel if I am given another chance at it I will continue to think about every day. The difference is it will be a great R, one that will be strong.
I know you feel the same way.
We will get there a day soon.

Last edited by gr8 day 2B alive; 03/31/10 06:03 PM.

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