MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Thank you CW. Since lots of us seem to be having money problems with their H's this morning (DG ). I've decided to start e-mailing my WH my daily financial transactions. Business and personal. All the payments that have to be made this week & all income that we've received. This way he can see the amount of outflows, comparing to the inflows.

It will probably depress him even more and give him more reasons to run, but he has to face reality. Every time I bring up our financial situation, he says "but it's going to get better just wait".

The other thing I'm really sad about is that he pretty much ignores that he has a daughter. His darling daughter that he was so devoted to before he changed into an alien. He doesn't ask to see her. Wouldn't even text her if she didn't text him first last week. When we talk he sometimes asks "how is she?" that's it. Maybe he is ashamed to face her, who knows, but it's very sad.

Last time I've met with him I told him that he forgot D's Name Day (Saint Day) we usually celebrate it as kind of "mini birthday" with a card and a gift. He tells me that he forgot...looked really upset with himself. Did he call her after to make-up for it? NO he didn't.

D16 was hurt that he forgot. I think that she is starting to form her own picture of him. I don't say anything bad about him to her. I just told her that daddy has to figure himself out, that he is going through a difficult time. I had a conversation with D16 in the car yesterday. She asked if I think that we will ever get back together. I told her that I still love him, but that I don't know what's going to happen. That I was willing to to take him back after the affair was discovered, but he chose the OW. As long as the OW is in the picture nothing can change. We just have to let him be for now... She said that he seems really unhappy (yup I see that too). She also said "Mom I know that he still loves you".


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