Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[Allen A]

Yup, definitely expose the affair on her end.

Even if their marriage does end, its a pressure she does NOT want or she would have told him herself. If she's hiding it for ANY reason - EXPOSE it...

WHo knows, she may be worried about finances and soaking him for money.. she may be squirrelling $ from him each week into a secret account and she doenst' have all his $$ yet who knows...

The point is, if she's keeping it a secret, its to your advantage then to expose it. THIS will put HER on the defensive for a change.. right now if it is secret then she is WIDE OPEN for you to sneak onto the offensive and expose over on her end.

Do it in her workplace if you have to... make a huge scene

[Marked&Healed]

Not to mention that she, well, I wouldn't say obsesses about me, but I'm definitely on her mind a lot. I asked to be her facebook friend, and boy did that go a long way to freak her out. Really took up a lot of time and energy for them to talk about that one.

She asks a lot of questions about me, and of course he lies and says things to make me sound controlling and crazy... script.

[Allen A]

You definitely need to put some pressure on her then... if she can't handle an offensive on her end then DO IT.

If she wigged out just over a facebook account imagine what would happen if you showed up at hr workplace and made a scene?

"YOU STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND YOU SL#ZY WH0R$!!!" lol

Go to where she works, and yell that at the top of your lungs.

Then print up 100 copies of a paper that says she's having sex with your husband and cheating on her own and tape them up all around her work building

THAT is exposure that will have some impact

[Marked&Healed]

Yes, it certainly would. She lives an hour and a half away, and I just don't have time or energy to do that. If she were closer, I would. I have confronted women at work before.

I am hoping her H wants to talk because I want to teach him a few things. If I expose and he begs, pleads, etc, he'll drive her away. However, if he does the right thing, hopefully he'll be able to put good pressure on her to stay and break it off. I know that's a real long shot, but I'm going to try anyway.

[Marked&Healed]

Personal Goals:
Join gym, work out 4 times a week minimum
Join karate class
Begin training to go hiking with my dog one weekend

Relationship goals:
H look at me more
H smiles at me and has fun with me
H puts arm around me - either hug or at night when sleeping

[Puppy Dog Tails]

You definitely need to put some pressure on her then... if she can't handle an offensive on her end then DO IT.

If she wigged out just over a facebook account imagine what would happen if you showed up at hr workplace and made a scene?

"YOU STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND YOU SL#ZY WH0R$!!!" lol

Go to where she works, and yell that at the top of your lungs.

Then print up 100 copies of a paper that says she's having sex with your husband and cheating on her own and tape them up all around her work building

THAT is exposure that will have some impact

Are you serious???

[4luv]

You definitely need to put some pressure on her then... if she can't handle an offensive on her end then DO IT.

If she wigged out just over a facebook account imagine what would happen if you showed up at hr workplace and made a scene?

"YOU STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND YOU SL#ZY WH0R$!!!" lol

Go to where she works, and yell that at the top of your lungs.

Then print up 100 copies of a paper that says she's having sex with your husband and cheating on her own and tape them up all around her work building

THAT is exposure that will have some impact

Are you serious???

I don't think he was serious :-/

[MrBond]

Was there a reason why you haven't confronted him this time alone? You don't have to be mean or angry when doing so, just firm and strong. You don't deserve to have him disrespecting you in his social circle.

[Marked&Healed]

I am biding my time because he usually goes over to see her on Mondays and I'd like to get through the weekend with as much opportunity to ride this wave of good will he's showing me and be able to draw him closer to me. Then I will do it Sunday night - which is doubly good since it will give him something to think about Monday (he'll probably still go there) and the OWH works a part time job on Sundays, so I'm hoping I can catch him there.

[MrBond]

Good luck. I would have exposed the minute I found out, especially if this is his second one.

Were the issues that caused the first one ever worked out or were they swept under the rug?