Thanks Pup and Allen.

The A has been well and truly exposed - for 3 months. I did it immediately to all sides of family and friends, and H had already fessed to several people when he was in turmoil and feeling guilty.

H is very isolated (partly because half the people that matter to him are 10,000kms away).

Have been working steadily on getting supporters of the M on board to pressure.

Now what?