poet....the next few months will be tough. I remember the heartache of the interrogatories and literally spending wasted hours hunting through receipts, tax forms, ledgers and copying for HOURS. THEN....a request AGAIN for more papers, receipts, etc. It was a horror and a nightmare. And, my story isn't over.

I imagine your H's L is simply looking for your income history vs. your performance history with work. Divorce is only about two things: custody/parenting time and division of assets/child support.

My only advice for you is that there is an overwhelming power here on this board to keep you stuck...to keep you in denial...to keep you imagining and hoping that ONE DAY, a bolt of lightening will come down, strike your husband and he will show up on your doorstep with a dozen red roses telling you how sorry he is and that he wants back in.

It doesn't happen that way. Rarely does. BUT..it doesn't mean that you have to close the door shut.

What you DO have to do is grieve the loss of your marriage. Get it out of your system. Do everything necessary to protect yourself. Get what you need to live and discard everything else. Don't get walked over. This is a BUSINESS DEAL right now.

Lastly, I highly recommend that you buy Dr. Grey's Venus and Mars, Starting Over. It helped me turn the corner. Stay strong.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;