My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[4luv]

i just quickly read the last few pages of your thread and I hope that you can stay dark with your husband. But staying dark isn't for HIM, it is for YOU! Once you have been dark, GAL, not even THINKING about what your husband is doing, if your husband is worried or thinking about you, how your husband is reacting...YOU WILL FIND yourself in a better place.

The thing that I hope you get out of going dark is that you need to let your husband go. Not in the sense of giving up on your marriage but realizing that you can't control him or what he does. This took me a while to realize and ONLY came when I went dark for a few days. Matter of fact, I never went COMPLETELY dark, but i only communicated through email or text and would not reply to all of the emails or texts from husband. I have noticed a HUGE change in my attitude and I believe that this attitude shift can only happen when YOU step AWAY from you current focus on your husband and put the focus back on you.

I just noticed a lot of talk about what your husband was going to do or not going to do, if your husband is still talking to OW. Try not to worry about what he is doing or thinking right now and just focus on you.