I can't recall but don't marriage recover books state that disclosure has to happen for repairing a marriage? I am really foggy on this...
I believe most books state that it is different for every couple and that some BS don't want the details; that if should be the BS's need for knowledge that should guide the amount of disclosure.
My H hated seeing the amount of pain disclosing things did to me , but he understood I needed to hear it and feel the truth of it, to judge if I could trust him again. Also I didn't want new details coming out in the future and flooring me with pain years down the line.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
