Into my arms... #70

[kat727]

I guess what I am "seeing" but not able to exress is what if(and a big if at that) her H could lay it all out, every detail, every little crumb of what he remembers. K listens but doesn't maybe hear it all while she is experiencing a flood of emotions. So then she is going back again and again to clarify and so it still isn't healing because it just keeps picking at the wound.

Yes he needs to disclose. She needs to keep calmer. Oh my this could go on and on. I am only suggesting that they work to get to a more stable place in their relationship and then work on each thing bit by bit.

I know that I want to see her happy and of course this working out if this is what they both want. It is difficult only having one side of things and having to make calculated assumptions. I find that in general these boards are a place to vent when things don't go well. So maybe that should be taken into account as well.

kat